Welcome to our last Podcast for our month of October on Gender Identities, the Gender Spectrum, and Gender Transitions.  We have had an amazing month, where we have spoken with experts on gender and transitions, and to several people about their personal journeys.  Tomorrow we have our final Behind the Scenes blog for the year - so do not forget to check that out.  But today is the final discussion on Gender.   In this Episode:   Today, Monkey and the Professor sit around the table and talk to Dr. Caroline Gibbs about steps involved in gender transitions - to facilitate healthy and balanced and successful transitions or, as Dr. Raj prefers - Gender Affirmation processes.   Caroline Gibbs is the founder and director of The Transgender Institute, and is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor, nationally and internationally recognized as an educator, advocate, and provider for this population. She is also a partner in the International Center for Transgender Care. She understands the current DSM-5 diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria and differentiates among sexual identity, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. A Few Definitions:   We discussed a few definitions - and Caroline wanted to point out that terminology has changed - both in the phrases allowed as well as in the change of definitions.  With that in mind, she believes that gender is a hardwired construct that cannot be altered - it is how people feel they are as far as male, female, or in between.  That feeling is what it is - although someone’s external appearance may or may not reflect those feelings.   Transgender is also a very broad term.  It is an umbrella term that includes transsexual people (people whose gender identity does not match their physical selves), cross-dressers (predominantly male, heterosexual people, who enjoy dressing as women), and drag queens (crossdressers who dress as more famous women for sexual pleasure or for fun).  Caroline feels that cross-dressers often have a varied transsexual identity.  After time in therapy and life experience - they find themselves with a shift in their identity.  There is no standard here nor has there been research.  They may or may not ever move to the transgender part of the umbrella and may not transition.   Gender dysphoria has many misconceptions in the world.  In general, it means, very simply, discomfort.  In some cases, it may be extreme discomfort.  Adding the term gender in front of that means someone who has discomfort around their gender.  This involves a mismatch in gender identity from that assigned at birth, and where they may present physically - and what they feel is internally their true gender.  As the Professor suggested - their insides do not match their outsides.  It can be a very serious issue.   Transitioning is where someone makes a decision to journey to make the internal and external self-match.  There are many different things

BCBC - Podcast - S3EP013 - Caroline Gibbs - Gender Transition Coach

Introduction   Of month topic: Issues Facing Trans/Intersex/Bi Of hosts Date. Note:  .3-.5% of Americans  = roughly 1,300,000 people Note on the GLAAD “Understanding” reports and National Center for Transgender Equality.   Ways we’ll be discussing the topic (Section Descriptions: Discrimination, Legal Challenges, Physical Safety)   Section 1 - Discrimination                          Discrimination in Public Accommodations                                      Public accommodations are places accessible to the public, such as retail stores, restaurants, parks, hotels, libraries, movie theatres, and banks. In a 2014 study conducted in Massachusetts, 65% of transgender people reported experiencing discrimination in a place of public accommodation in the past 12 months. Discrimination in Employment              Transgender people experience pervasive discrimination at work. Between 13% and 47% of transgender workers report being unfairly denied a job,9 and 78% report being harassed, mistreated, or discriminated against at work, as shown in              Currently, only 18 states have clear laws prohibiting employment discrimination on the basis of gender identity or expression (see Figure 3 on the next page).12 There is no federal law that explicitly prohibits discrimination against transgender employees, but there are some protections in place. Both the U.S. Attorney General and the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) have interpreted Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which prohibits discrimination “because of sex,” to protect transgender workers. Discrimination in Housing.              one in five transgender people (19%) in the United States have been refused a home or apartment and more than one in ten (11%) have been evicted because of their gender identity.21 Homelessness is a critical issue for transgender people, with one in five having experienced homelessness at some time in their lives because of discrimination and family rejection Discrimination in Education              Schools are difficult places for transgender students as they regularly face discrimination, bullying, and harassment in elementary, secondary, and post-secondary institutions. In one survey, 40% of gender non-confirming youtha reported being frequently harassed by their peers and 37% reported frequent verbal harassment and name calling.26 Across the United States, only 13 states have laws that clearly protect students against discrimination because of their gender identity and/or expression            only 18 states expressly prohibit bullying on the basis of gender identity and/or expression (see Figure 6).29 A study in Massachusetts found that 19% of transgender respondents had postponed or avoided necessary care due to mistreatment or discrimination from health care workers.                      

BCBC - MondayMumblings - S1E013 - Transgender Current Issues

Welcome to the last nugget for our month of consent. Today we are excited to be speaking with Joel Baum of the Gender Spectrum organization. The Madame got to sit down with Joel to learn about the Gender Spectrum - both as a topic of learning and as an organization. Joel’s organization does some amazing work to help with education around California - so you need to check out this episode. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC - Nugget - S3-E0013 - Joe Baum - Gender Spectrum

 In this MondayMumblings Monkey and Miss Laura talk about gender reveals and what you can do to be an ally and help support people with their gender identity.   www.bcbcpodcast.com

BCBC - MondayMumblings - S3E012 - Gender Reveals - Be an Ally

Welcome to our third podcast of the gender spectrum, gender identity and gender transitions month.  Today Miss Laura and the Madame get to sit down with an old friend, Q Wilson, to talk about what it means to be Genderqueer, his journey of gender identity, and all the good things therein! Q is a self-identified gender independent, queer, polyamorous leather boi.  His experience and background in many communities as an activist and educator allows him to bring us a unique point of view on gender and gender journeys. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!   Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast About Our Guest:  Q is a self-identified queer, gender independent, polyamorous leather boi. It’s well known that flirting is Q’s default mode of communication. He can often be found with a charming smile on his face or looking mischievous with the other bois. On rare occasions, this boi might even be found dancing on a table, for the right amount of money…for charity of course!  A social justice activist for more than 20 years, Q consistently strives to bring together the various communities to which he belongs. He continues to seek avenues to actively serve as a bridge for the leather community’s kinky newcomers and it’s more established members, as well as those outside of the community, whenever possible.

BCBC - Podcast - S3 EP012 - Q Wilson - Gender Queer

Welcome to the third nugget for our month of consent.  Today we are excited to be speaking with Chrystal Bartlett, a gender transition coach out of North Carolina.   The Monkey got to sit down with Chrystal to understand what might be involved in gender transition coaching, resources available to people, and all of those important things.   For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast  

BCBC - Nugget - S3-E0012 - Chrystal Bartlett - Gender Transition Coach

Monkey and Miss Laura share their thoughts about a vibrating cockring from Adam & Eve.

Sex Toys October - Monkey & Miss Laura - Vibrating cockring - Adam & Eve

Welcome to the third podcast for our month of consent.  Today we are excited to be speaking with boy Dana.  We were blessed to have Dana with the Professor and Monkey, sharing the details of his gender identity and transition journey, challenges along the way with depression and culture, the loss of family and friends and the arrival at some sage advice and a beautiful view of life. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast About Our Guest: A native of Columbia, South Carolina, boy Dana now resides in Baltimore, Maryland with his Owner, Mademoiselle Ceci. he’s a charter member of The 7 Guardsmen, BLUF member #2973, an alumni member of Onyx SE, an associate member of HOTFF of Toronto, honorary member of the Panthers LLC of Atlanta and a full member of Hooker & Boys.

BCBC - Podcast - S3 EP011 - Dana Prosser - A Journey of Transition

Welcome to the third Monday Mumbling for October 2018. This Monday we are really excited to be talking about some of the history of Intersex and Transgender Individuals - roles that they played in important times in our worlds and the changes in perceptions that have followed through from ancient times to today.   There is a lot to talk about this month - and I know we are barely scratching the surface.  We would LOVE to hear back from you about more things, topics, comments, and guests we could be talking to - and if you would like us to do another month on Gender in 2019.   For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

Monday Mumblings S1E011 101518 Gender History

This Monday we are really excited to be talking about Gender, including the Journey of Gender Explorations and Questioning and even Gender Transitions. There is a lot to talk about this month - and I know we are barely scratching the surface.  In fact we are only in our second week on this topic - if you missed us last week - go check out all of the amazing episodes on Gender including two educational and entertaining interviews with doctors from Mount Sinai, Monkey's own gender identity story involving a loved one, and the Monday Mumbling on the Gender Spectrum. We would LOVE to hear back from you about more things, topics, comments, and guests we could be talking to - and if you would like us to do another month on Gender in 2019. Speaking of which - 2019 is JUST around the corner.  We have topics for the first few months - and are looking for input from all of you as to what you would like to hear.  If you are listening in our App - send us a message, if not, go to our website or drop us an email at BCBCPODCAST@BCBCPODCAST.com and let us know about topics you would like to hear.  We need ideas for what to talk about, guests to have - remember - we produce content for you to listen to Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday every week!  So that means we need to hear from you! So - back to October.  Happy October 8 everyone.  Do you know what that means?  It means it is Monkey and the Professor's favorite time of year - only 3 more weeks (and 2 days if you want to be precise) until Halloween!  Let’s not mention anything beyond Halloween - this is a sacred time and deserves ALL of our attention.  Remember to send us your costume pictures and #sexiestbarnyard! Today the Monkey and Madame are sitting down to burst some bubbles of misunderstanding around the topic of Intersex and to shed a bit of understanding on this often misunderstood population.  This is a bit of a technical discussion around genetics and such but really fascinating!  For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC - MondayMumblings - S1E010 - Interexed Individuals

Welcome to the second nugget for our month of consent.  Today we are excited to be speaking with Elle - founder of the Facebook Community, Girl Inside The Madame and Monkey got to sit down with Elle about her transition, the support of her family, and the rapidly growing community she has built to tell her story through memes and more on Facebook.  For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:www.bcbcpodcast.com And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC Nugget S3-E0011 101118 Elle Girl Inside

Welcome to the second podcast for our month of consent.  Today we are excited to be speaking with Trystan Angel Reese.  Trystan became famous several years ago when he became well known as the “Pregnant Man” - choosing to have a baby with his partner Biff and pause his hormone therapy that was aiding him in his transition to appearing male. The Madame and Monkey got to sit down with Trystan about his transition, changes from becoming a parent, and the journey he continues today as he looks forward to the next steps in making his body his own. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast About Our Guest:  Trystan Reese is a transgender man who has been working in the LGBT movement his entire adult life. He started out as an organizer on political campaigns, spending eight years persuading self-identified homophobes while working on ballot measures all over the country. Last year his family exploded into the national spotlight when they chose to have a biological child that Trystan gave birth to. Trystan lives in Portland with Biff and their three amazing kids. They can collectively be found on social media as “Biff and I.”  

BCBC - Podcast - S3EP010 - Trystan Angel Reese - Gender Identity and Pregnancy

Welcome to the first Nugget of October 2018 - our month on Gender Identity, the Gender Spectrum, and Gender Transitions.  We are really excited about this month so make sure you checked out our three earlier episodes this week - Monday, October 1’s Monday Mumbling on the Gender Spectrum, Tuesdays Podcast with Dr. Raj Purohit of Mount Sinai on Gender Affirmation Surgery and Procedures and Monkeys Blog yesterday on his Gender Identity Experiences. In Today’s Episode: We are really excited about Dr. Chubak’s return to the barnyard.  If you did not catch her earlier visit - you can go back and listen to her from our month on Professional Services where she spoke to us about good ways to find a doctor that will be your partner in your health journey. Today, Monkey got to sit down with Dr. Chubak again to talk about Gender.  As a reminder, Barbara Chubak is a medical doctor at Mount Sinai and an assistant professor with the Department of Urology.  She did many things before becoming a doctor, ranging from secretarial work to being a bioethicist,  She is full of so much information and knowledge - we knew she would be a frequent visitor and long-term resident of the barnyard. In Dr. Chubak’s work - she has an intake form where she asks new patients to her practice to fill out a questionnaire.  Her first contact with patients, even before meeting them face to face, is to include the questions of preferred name and preferred pronoun as part of her standard intake.  She finds this helpful to really relate to her patients.  Of course, she does sometimes get pushback from her patients with these questions.  She uses those pushbacks to initiate conversations as to the reasons why people are pushing back and why she feels it is important. Gender Identities and Terminologies: As always, we do like to find out the definitions people use for some of the common terms around each month's topics. Cisgender - having a gender identity that is consonant with one’s biological sex.  In other words, they match. Transgender -This definition is not universally true as trans-culture is growing and evolving and accepting more in the realm of gender fluidity and non-binary genders.  Transgender started its foundations under the binary gender construct where there was a female gender and a male gender.  The idea behind transgender was that someone would transition their gender so that their outsides matched their internal identification of gender, which is at the opposite end of the spectrum from the assigned sex at birth. Gender Transitions are the processes by which someone changes their physical appearance to match their gender identity through a series of physical changes.  There are many different choices that can be made along that pathway and many extremes or minimums that can be chosen.  Changes may be hormone therapy or surgical actions.  There are additional socialization trainings and re-educations that can be undergone as well. Urology Conc

BCBC - Nugget - S3 - Dr. Barbara Chubak talks to us about gender and sex

Monkey kicks off this month's Gender and Transition Journeys with a personal story and hope.   To read the blog and more head on over to the www.bcbcpodcast.com website.   thanks   Monkey  

BCBC - Blog - Monkey Chatter - Oct 3 2018 - Kicking off Gender Month with a Personal Story

Welcome to the first podcast of October 2018.  This is our month on topics around the theme of Gender Identity, the Gender Spectrum, and Gender Transitions.  We have a really packed month - with 5 amazing Monday Mumblings, 5 podcasts, 5 blogs, and 4 nuggets.  Make sure you stay tuned in to all of our episodes!   In This Episode:  Today Monkey and the Professor got to chat with Dr. Raj Purohit.  Dr. Raj was born in Rajasthan, India (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rajasthan) but grew up in the midwest - he is a Michigander at heart.  He left Michigan to study history and political theory in college - at Williams.  He believes that background certainly informs many of his decisions and things he is very passionate about - he grew up in a family of artists and doctors.  In medical school, he took a year off to apprentice with a painter in Rajasthan.  He attributes his apprenticeship and painting to have a significant impact on how he views surgery.  He came back to the US, finished his medical training at Columbia, went on to UCSF for his internship in surgery and residency in urology.  He did a Fellowship in pelvic reconstructive surgery - this is where he developed an interest in cis gendered patients originally - in reconstructing the urethra from trauma and complications, and ultimately shifted his focus to developing the Gender Affirmation Surgery program at Mount Sinai a year ago. Dr. Raj made the decision to go into medicine because of his strong family background in medicine, where many of his family members are also doctors.  His wife and sister-in-law are both doctors as well.  You could consider medicine to be a family business.  Even with that, something sparked within him when he entered the operating room for the first time - it was a sense of belonging and home and passion.  He sees the surgical suite as a controlled environment, whereas a surgeon, he is an artist - painting the body and bringing out the beauty from within the canvas.  Surgery is where he finds his balance in both art and medicine. We started off with a very high-level overview of what is involved in Gender Reassignment.  To begin with, the preferred term is Gender Affirmation - because what is really happening is helping the person become externally what they are already internally - it merely affirms their gender identity. At no point are they really assigning a gender to the patient - that patient is already the gender they are on the path to appearing as.  We really love that terminology and phrasing.  As Dr. Raj states - the doctors are not assigning or giving the patient a new gender - they are only uncovering what is already there, the gender the person already feels exists.  (https://amzn.to/2xOODmq)  So - Gender Affirmation Surgery typically involves some level of reconstruction on the body so that the body will fit the gender that the person already identifies as.  Patients have already gone through hormonal therapy and have had changes

BCBC - Podcast - S3EP009 - Dr, Raj Purohit - Gender Affirmation Surgery

Welcome to the first Monday Mumbling for October 2018. This Monday we are really excited to be talking about Gender, including the Journey of Gender Explorations and Questioning and even Gender Transitions. There is a lot to talk about this month - and I know we are barely scratching the surface. We would LOVE to hear back from you about more things, topics, comments, and guests we could be talking to - and if you would like us to do another month on Gender in 2019. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC - MondayMumblings - S3E009 - Talking About the Gender Spectrum

Welcome to our final tasty little nugget for our month on Consent.  Today the Madame was blessed to sit down with Christine and Liz from the organization Cultures of Consent. Cultures of Consent has a goal of creating cultures of consent, respect, and positive sexuality.  Since this is right in line with our entire month, we thought it was a great place to wrap up our topics on Consent! Cultures of Consent is a 501(c)(3) non-profit serving youth and adults in the Northeastern United States. They focus on teaching about consent, rape culture and healthy relationships through age-appropriate modules and through raising awareness online. Christine is the Founder and Director of Education and Liz is the Executive Director. Check out this talk, and we will be having Christine and Liz back during our parenting month to talk about teaching consent to children! For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more! We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC - Nugget - S3-E0009 - Liz Puloka - Consent Culture

Written by Miss Laura and read by the Monkey... This is Miss Laura's look at consent in music. To review the whole list and read her blog, head over to www.bcbcpodcast.com

BCBC - Blog - Miss Lauras Corner - Consent in Popular Music

Welcome to the third podcast for our month of consent.  Today we are excited to be speaking with Robert Kandell.  Robert Kandell hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”, Robert Kandell has spent the last 20 years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through more honest and authentic connection and communication. Miss Laura and the Professor got to sit down with Robert about consent, and why consent is sexy. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

BCBC - Podcast - S3EP008 - Robert Kandell - Why Consent is Sexy

Welcome to the fourth Monday Mumbling for September 2018 - this is our month on Consent and we are really excited to have an entire month dedicated to speaking about consent.  It is our hope that we can talk about consent, educate a few people and have a bit of fun doing it so it is easier to learn.  We believe there are so many more things about consent than simply talking about sexual consent - and throughout the month we try to shed some light.  If we missed anything, please drop us a note and let us know!  Today Monkey and the Madame sit down to talk about Consent Violations and Consent Accidents.  There are a lot of questions about if consent violations can or cannot be accidents, and a range of ideas of what may be involved in a consent violation.  Monkey and the Madame walk you through a discussion of examples and frameworks to help you understand the difference and how to navigate both situations - because if a boundary has been reached - there is still pain and an impact on the people involved.  For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes:  www.bcbcpodcast.com  And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more!  We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax deductible donation!  Website:  www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Instagram:  https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast  Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

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