Tess Booker and Kelly Meyers 
Brilliant Minds & Beautiful Souls: Where Executive Minds Meet Intuitive Wisdom.
Unbecoming Who You Are Not: Rediscovering Your Authentic Self | Dr. Kelly Meyer

Who are you when you stop defining yourself by your roles, expectations, accomplishments, and what everyone else has told you you're supposed to be?

On this episode of Brilliant Minds & Beautiful Souls, Tess Booker welcomes Dr. Kelly Meyer, international transformational coach, speaker, author, and founder of Project Find Your Fire, for a conversation about identity, love, emotional awareness, and the ongoing process of becoming more authentically ourselves.

Kelly shares his own journey of self-discovery and the experiences that led him to become deeply curious about human behavior. After nearly 30 years of coaching individuals and groups, facilitating experiences, and speaking, his work centers on helping people recognize the identities and patterns they've accumulated—and begin unbecoming what no longer belongs to them.

Together, Tess and Kelly explore how often we confuse our roles with our identity. Parent. Partner. Entrepreneur. Leader. Coach. Professional. Those roles may describe parts of our lives, but they don't necessarily answer the deeper question: Who am I?

The conversation moves into emotional intelligence, relationships, finding your tribe, and Kelly's perspective that love isn't simply something we feel—it's something we practice.

As Kelly puts it, “I experience the same emotions you do, I just choose not to live there.”

In This Conversation

You'll hear reflections around:

• Kelly's personal journey of self-discovery
• Reevaluating and reinventing ourselves through different seasons of life
• The process of “unbecoming” what isn't authentically ours
• Separating identity from titles, roles, and accomplishments
• How societal expectations influence our sense of self
• Emotional awareness and choosing what we do with our emotions
• Kelly's perspective on love as a muscle that strengthens through practice
• Transferring strengths and attributes across different roles in life
• The “airplane question” as an exercise in authentic self-expression
• Finding relationships and communities where you can genuinely belong
• What happens when an old tribe no longer fits who you're becoming
• The relationship between self-awareness, mindset, and personal transformation
• Kelly's zebras-and-lions analogy for understanding social behavior
• Learning to love the process of discovering who you are

One of the strongest ideas in this conversation is that personal growth doesn't always require becoming someone new.

Sometimes it asks us to remove what we've accumulated—the expectations, identities, labels, and ways of being that were never truly ours.

And that creates room to discover what remains.

As Kelly says:

“If your tribe cuts you out, you're now free to find your real tribe.”

A Question to Carry

Unbecoming to Become

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