Dr. Justin Coulson is an honorary fellow at the Center for Positive Psychology at the University of Melbourne. He has three best-selling books about family life and parenting. He writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, family, and well-being. He&#39;s a TEDx speaker and a regular TV expert guest. He&#39;s a contributor to major Australian media outlets. He&#39;s also contributed to the New York Times.  He had a successful radio career and then returned to school in his late 20&#39;s where he earned his psychology degree and his PhD in psychology. Since then he has written multiple peer-reviewed journal articles and scholarly book chapters. He is also a highly sought-after international speaker delivering keynote speeches and workshops to boost well-being and improve relationships for parents, teachers, students and employees and students. I discovered Dr. Coulson through a friend&#39;s social media. When I saw his post, I just thought that he was doing good. He&#39;s not yelling fire in a crowded theater, he&#39;s getting to the heart of our teens. He&#39;s specifically getting to the heart of our daughters, because he&#39;s the father of six daughters. Dr. Coulson has written a book called  Miss-connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter &#39;Hates&#39; You, Expects the World and Needs to Talk. You are going to love this interview and how he gets emotional talking about our girls. Show Notes:  [07:55] During conferences Dr. Coulson is consistently getting messages about how the world is destroying our teenagers. His experience is that they aren&#39;t dealing with these mass challenges. [09:14] The problems facing our teens are actually more mundane problems.  [09:50] Parents and teens are just wanting to connect and get along. [10:29] Miss-Connection is ultimately about the deep desire our children have to be close to us and we have to be close to them. [11:59] Dr. Coulson interviewed and surveyed around 400 teenage girls. Their voices are front and center in the book. [13:17] Why we parent matters more than how we parent. [15:29] If my why is around developing this child into the best human that they can be that means that when they&#39;re being challenging I&#39;m going to be more compassionate. [18:36] We need to see our children&#39;s behavior as opportunities to connect. When a child is being challenged, they are going to be challenging. We need to find the best in them. [20:44] You can show your child that if you can name it, you can tame it.  [21:41] Keep giving our children these moments because they do want the connection. Give them some time and space and keep trying.  [22:52] We need to be our kids&#39; ally and have stretched out arms and compassion.  [27:08] Friendship challenges are difficult for our daughters. There is a constant realignment for girls in their peer groups. [28:32] Girls are much more likely to ruminate about relationships. [29:52] Research tells us that our daughters need to go through

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