Are ultimatums ever a good idea? If so - when? If not, what can you do instead? What should you do if you receive an ultimatum from your partner? And how do you undo the damage that an ultimatum can do to a relationship? In this episode, we&#39;re going to cover all the ins and outs of what to do when you come up against a dealbreaker in your relationship, and how to handle your last-ditch attempts to get things back on track. As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the  Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Find a quality therapist, online, to support you and work on the places where you’re stuck. For 10% off your first month, visit Betterhelp.com/ALIVE to fill out the quick questionnaire and get paired with a therapist who’s right for you. Resources: Check out my Secrets of Relationship Communication COURSE for a masterclass in how to improve the communication and connection in your relationship. I want to know you better! Take the quick, anonymous, Relationship Alive survey FREE Guide to Neil’s Top 3 Relationship Communication Secrets Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner’s Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) Support the podcast (or text “SUPPORT” to 33444) Amazing intro and outro music provided courtesy of The Railsplitters Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today, we are going to cover a topic that&#39;s simple and a little bit tricky. It&#39;s the topic of ultimatums. Are they ever worth it? What&#39;s the good, what&#39;s the bad, what&#39;s the ugly when it comes to giving or receiving an ultimatum in your relationship? And are there ever circumstances where an ultimatum is the best choice? That&#39;s what we&#39;re going to cover in today&#39;s episode. Neil Sattin: Okay, so first, what even is an ultimatum? An ultimatum typically occurs when one of you comes up against something that is a deal-breaker for you in your relationship. So, the ultimatum, it comes from the Latin &quot;ultima,&quot; which, if I&#39;m remembering right from my high school Latin, means &quot;the last.&quot; So it&#39;s basically the thing... It&#39;s like the last thing, it&#39;s your last resort. And it really should be your last resort. If you find yourself giving ultimatums all the time, then that should be a major red flag for you that something is not going well in your relationship, or if you&#39;re receiving ultimatums all the time. And an ultimatum is fairly simple, it&#39;s &quot;I want you to either do this thing, or stop doing this thing. I want some change in you, or some commitment in you,&quot; or whatever it is, &quot;I want this from you, and if you can&#39;t give this to me, then I&#39;m done. I&#39;m out of the relationship.&quot; So ultimatums often come up when you are up against a deal-breaker for you. Neil S

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