ND Marriage Scripts: Talk Without Escalating When FriedIf you’ve ever tried to explain what you need—and it came out as anger—this episode is for you. And if you and your partner are both good people but keep missing each other in the worst moments, this is for you too. In this nervous-system-first conversation, I’m breaking down what happens when two tapped-out nervous systems try to communicate in the little-kid season—especially when you’re a neurodivergent mom and your partner’s wiring needs different cues (like verbal confirmation that you heard them).We’ll talk about the 3 biggest “hot zones” that trigger conflict—chores + mental load, overstimulation + shutdown, and money stress + trust—and why a lot of fights aren’t about the topic… they’re about wiring, timing, and load. You’ll get my simple Tapped Out Protocol (name your state → name your need → make a micro-ask), plus word-for-word scripts for when you need space, help, backup, or repair—without spiraling into people-pleasing or scorched-earth mode.And we’re naming the tone trap too: how ND bluntness (and the identities we’ve had to carry) can get misread, and how to soften your delivery without masking—so your message can land while you stay true to yourself. This episode includes a free 10-minute weekly team meeting agenda you can grab in the show notes to make hard conversations easier to contain.Next steps: Follow the show so you never miss an episode, and check the show notes to connect with me on Instagram/Threads/Facebook/TikTok/YouTube/X + download the free 10-min weekly team meeting agenda in the show notes (below).In this episode, we’re digging into talking to your partner when you’re both tapped out—because communication when overwhelmed hits different when you’re navigating neurodivergent marriage (especially autistic mom marriage) and trying to stay connected through overstimulation in relationships, the messy reality of shutdown vs escalation, and the moments where you need real, usable conflict repair scripts for relationship repair. We’re naming the patterns that keep couples stuck—like chores resentment, mental load, and invisible labor—and grounding everything in nervous system regulation for couples with practical communication scripts for couples you can actually say out loud when your brain is fried. We’re also calling out the tone trap and exploring how to soften without masking, so you can be clear without disappearing. And because stress loves a loophole, we’re addressing the hard stuff too: money stress in marriage, trust issues money, budgeting conversations, and how to set boundaries with partner that protect the relationship (and your capacity) in the season of marriage after kids, postpartum marriage, and executive dysfunction.#NeurodivergentMarriage #AutisticMom #OverstimulatedMom #CommunicationSkills #ConflictRepair #MentalLoad #NervousSystemRegulation #GroundedInFullColorCommunity Membership:

Talking to Your Partner When You’re Both Tapped Out (Neurodivergent Marriage + Overstimulation + Conflict Repair Scripts + The Tone Trap)

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