I’ve been thinking about something that sounds superficial until I actually sit with it:Who teaches you how to carry yourself when your life gets bigger?My husband once told me about something he remembers Jamie Foxx saying to his daughter about dating and tax brackets—the basic idea being that someone without experience of your lifestyle might not understand everything that comes with it.Whether or not I’ve got that quote exactly right, the idea stuck with me.Because then I started thinking about Zendaya. Keke Palmer. Women I’ve watched grow into public lives while appearing composed, articulate, playful, confident, and able to move through rooms where being misunderstood can become very public.And I started wondering: Can you study that?As a late self-recognized autistic and ADHD woman who has spent a lot of time thinking about communication, I’m fascinated by the possibility of deliberately learning presence—not to become somebody else, but to have more choices when I enter rooms I wasn’t raised knowing how to navigate.Maybe confidence isn’t only something you either have or don’t.Maybe some of it is a language.And maybe languages can be learned.

Who Teaches You How to Carry Yourself When You Enter a Bigger Room?

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