Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationships

We all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child&#39;s future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, &quot;Troubled&quot;, explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you&#39;re interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob&#39;s book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why
(00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?
(00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?
(00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging
(00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?
(00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children
(00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment
(01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment style

Rob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He&#39;s perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of &quot;luxury beliefs,&quot; a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.
Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.

Connect with Rob
-Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/
-Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson
-Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537
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Rob Henderson - Building Resiliency From A Troubled Childhood

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