Talking points: food, addiction, cravings

I've gotta say, I enjoyed this one a lot. Glenn has a TON of practical, actionable, and science-based advice on tackling cravings—and a nice dose of good humor. Grab a pencil and listen close for this one, team.   

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:26)- Why are so many North Americans overweight?
(00:10:01) - Glenn on the declining quality of food
(00:17:24) - Getting away from packaged food is generally more important than a specific diet
(00:19:57) - Why is overeating such a thing, how do we approach letting go of that, and “organismic distress”
(00:39:24) - More helpful examples of organismic distress
(00:43:17) - Where does understanding a craving start?
(00:54:53) - How does a craving actually get extinguished, and the “extinction curve” that they take

Glenn Livingston, Ph.D. was the long time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. You may have seen his (or his company's) previous work, theories, and research in major periodicals like The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, The Indiana Star Ledger, The NY Daily News, American Demographics, or any of the other major media outlets you see on this page. You may also have heard him on ABC, WGN, and/or CBS radio, or UPN TV.
Disillusioned by what traditional psychology had to offer overweight and/or food obsessed individuals, Dr. Livingston spent several decades researching the nature of bingeing and overeating via work with his own clients AND a self-funded research program with more than 40,000 participants. He earned his Ph.D. is in psychology from Yeshiva University in 1991.

Connect with Glenn
-Website: https://www.defeatyourcravings.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defeatyourcravings/

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Glenn Livingston, The Cravings Expert - A Science-Based Way To End Your Cravings

Talking points: anxiety, parents, relationships, attachment

Thanks to everyone who's written in on these guides, I love hearing from you. Next up? Anxious attachment. What is it, where does it come from, and what you can do to work yourself—and your relationships—away from it. If you've ever found yourself doing stuff like getting anxious because they didn't text you back or because you need their phone password, this might be the ep for you.

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(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:14)- The core essence of anxious attachment
(00:07:53) - Some differences between secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment
(00:09:57) - Causes of anxious attachment; number one, inconsistent parental responses
(00:15:08) - Ask yourself: how was my upbringing unpredictable, or where were my parents unpredictable?
(00:17:19) - Cause number two: overly intrusive caretakers
(00:23:38) - Cause number three: emotional dependence encouraged by caregivers
(00:27:03) - Next is parental unavailability or rejection
(00:29:45) - Lastly, abuse, trauma, or PTSD
(00:30:45) - So what do we do? 
(00:34:25) - The biggest, most important piece: learn how to self-regulate. Here’s how
(00:41:18) - Solution number two: exposure therapy
(00:43:43) - Solution number three: work on your self-esteem and self-worth
(00:45:34) - Detach your worth from others’ validation

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A Man's Guide To Anxious Attachment

Talking points: trauma, hynotherapy, ADHD, insomnia, neurology, psychology

Team, this is an episode chock full of info. I&#39;ve never touched on the subject of hypnotherapy before, but it&#39;s interested me for a while. Professor David Spiegel came to dispel some of the misinfo around hypnosis as a therapeutic practice, and he offered a TON of insight into what&#39;s really happening in the mind and brain during a proper session. If you&#39;ve ever been curious about hypnosis or are looking for new healing methods to try out, this is the episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:05)- Myths about hypnosis
(00:09:14) - The neurology behind hypnosis
(00:17:43) - Neurological similarities between hypnosis and psychedelic experiences
(00:24:26) - More on what’s really happening in the brain during a hypnosis session
(00:28:35) - Can hypnosis help with ADHD, and how men tend to have difficult accessing a somatic experience
(00:35:52) - How can hypnotherapy help with trauma?
(00:42:59) - Hypnotherapy and healing the somatic intensity of trauma responses
(00:45:33) - David’s new therapeutic app
(00:52:12) - “It doesn’t have to be either/or, it can be both/and”
(00:56:10) - Insomnia, what’s involved in falling asleep, and how hypnotherapy may help

Dr. David Spiegel is Willson Professor and Associate Chair of Psychiatry &amp; Behavioral Sciences, Director of the Center on Stress and Health, and Medical Director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, where he&#39;s been a member of the academic faculty since 1975, and was Chair of the Stanford University Faculty Senate from 2010-2011. David has more than 40 years of clinical and research experience studying psycho-oncology, stress and health, pain control, psychoneuroendocrinology, sleep, hypnosis, and conducting randomized clinical trials involving psychotherapy for cancer patients. He&#39;s published 13 books, 404 scientific journal articles, and 170 book chapters on hypnosis, psychosocial oncology, stress physiology, trauma, and psychotherapy. His research has been supported by the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Cancer Institute, the National Institute on Aging, the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation, the Fetzer Institute, the Dana Foundation for Brain Sciences, and the Nathan S. Cummings Foundation.

Connect with David:
-David&#39;s app, Reveri: https://www.reveri.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reveri/

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David Spiegel - A Stanford Professor On Hypnotherapy, The Myths, And How It Can Heal Trauma

Talking points: relationships, conflict

Key word there? Improve. There will always be some form of butting heads, no matter the relationship, no matter how long. But it doesn't have to be something that creates wreckage. It can actually be helpful. Here's what to do.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:27)- The first three minutes, and why conflict CAN be productive
(00:04:57) - Know the role you tend to play
(00:05:47) - Breathe and ground, breathe and ground
(00:07:20) - Don’t get stuck in the objective reality and ignore the subjective experience of each other
(00:11:33) - After a year, most couples already pretty set-in ways of arguing, aka this is gonna take practice
(00:12:42) - Study (and I mean study) the first three minutes of conflict

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Do These 3 Things To Improve Relational Conflict

Talking points: biology, nervous system, burnout, mindset, anger

I&#39;ve said a number of times on the show that people with regulated nervous systems are going to be extremely well-equipped for the coming days. To that end, I wanted to bring dysregulation expert Dr. Linnea on to show how important—and how possible—it is be grounded, regulated, and flexible in our responses to life. If you&#39;re chronically stressed, THIS is the episode to listen to.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:56)- Why is learning about nervous system dysregulation so important?
(00:11:09) - What the ultimate core function of the nervous system really is
(00:21:08) - The intelligence of anger
(00:25:30) - How Dr. Linnea helps people identify and move through their anger
(00:33:32) - How much are nervous system issues derived from our parents?
(00:37:20) - On children, boundary testing, and how a little bit of adversity is actually beneficial
(00:43:35) - What’s more important: developing sensitivity to your current nervous system or understanding
(00:53:01) - The Alertness Elevator model
(00:59:23) - A five-stage plan to reverse nervous system dysregulation
(01:08:30) - The restoration, connection, and expansion stages

Dr. Linnea Passaler is a multifaceted health professional whose life and career have been driven by a passion for learning and her desire to assist others. With a degree in oral medicine from the renowned Universitá degli Studi in Milan, she interned at HSR Research- Ospedale San Raffaele – an advanced molecular biology facility located there. This experience kindled her interest and enthusiasm for research and immunology specifically. Through her journey and research, Dr. Linnea was able to recognize the effects of nervous system dysregulation on the sensitive person and how it contributes to conditions like anxiety, burnout, and physical and emotional symptoms. This realization drove her to found ‘Heal Your Nervous System,’ a platform that offers tools and resources to help individuals worldwide understand the root cause of anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, and physical and emotional symptoms

Connect with Dr. Linnea
-Website: https://healyournervoussystem.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healyournervoussystem
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healyournervoussystem
-Book: Heal Your Nervous System: https://amzn.to/3SN3HcC

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Dr. Linnea Passaler - The Best Way To Heal A Dysregulated Nervous System

Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychology

The last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.

This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant
(00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way
(00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody
(00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability
(00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence 
(00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment
(00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability
(00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship
(00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner
(00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!

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A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment

Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationships

We all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child&#39;s future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, &quot;Troubled&quot;, explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you&#39;re interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob&#39;s book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why
(00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?
(00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?
(00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging
(00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?
(00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children
(00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment
(01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment style

Rob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He&#39;s perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of &quot;luxury beliefs,&quot; a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.
Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.

Connect with Rob
-Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/
-Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson
-Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537
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Rob Henderson - Building Resiliency From A Troubled Childhood

Talking points: mindset, sabotage

It's not easy, I know. We all do it, and we all wonder why. But there's a way forward—and it's simpler than you think, my friends. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:12)- What people do immediately after sabotaging, why it’s NOT effective, and what to do instead
(00:06:12) - Practical steps to move beyond self-sabotage
(00:10:49) - If there’s one thing to take away from this

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Steps For Ending Self-Sabotage

Talking points: zen, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, mindset

I&#39;m one of those people who hated sitting down and meditating, even after a few years of trying to practice. It&#39;s now something I do nearly every day, and it grounds me in ways I can&#39;t explain. This is a pretty common story, especially among men I&#39;ve worked with, so I brought Henry Shukman back on the show to dig into what novice meditators get wrong, what some good starter methods are, and really: what IS thought, anyway?

Listen in for a great look at the start and &quot;end&quot; goal of mindfulness, and Henry&#39;s infectious enthusiasm for this powerful practice.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:47)- Do men and women have different struggles with meditation?
(00:08:35) - Why do meditation and mindfulness draw more women than men?
(00:18:45) - What are the initial resistance points when people start a meditation practice?
(00:25:03) - What IS thinking?
(00:31:57) - But what’s the actual goal of mindfulness, and how do you get there? 
(00:38:56) - The power of allowing, and what it actually means
(00:49:29) - What is “original nature”?
(00:56:16) - Do psychedelics offer the same glimpse into reality as meditation does?
(01:04:24) - Henry’s upcoming app

Henry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by several Zen teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.
He currently guides a wide range of students from all walks of life. He received dharma transmission (inka shomei) from Yamada Ryoun Roshi, the abbot of Sanbo Zen, and is a Zen Master of the Sanbo Zen lineage of Kamakura, Japan.

Connect with Henry
-Upcoming app: The Way: https://www.thewayapp.com/
-Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/
-Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/
-Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/

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Henry Shukman - A Path To True Mindfulness

Talking points: politics, culture

Recent data seems to show young men skewing more and more conservative and women more progressive. Why? Well, to my eyes, there's one major factor and a few others that are generating this shift. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:21) - What factors into this?
(00:04:42) - What happens for men in some progressive circles
(00:06:40) - And what happens for men in conservative circles
(00:09:26) - Other reasons impacting this shift
(00:13:38) - We’ve attached gender roles to political ideologies

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Why Are Young Men Abandoning The Left?

Talking points: relationships, mindfulness, marriage, logic, social media

Maybe you’ve heard me say this before, but the modern dating scene seems, well, insane. Case Kenny sat down for a great, insightful convo on why that's a thing, from the expectations social media feeds us, to the meaning of marriage to how AI is going to mess with all of it—or not.

Listen in and share this ep if you want honest thoughts and some straightforward tips on navigating modern relationships!

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:04:34)- Why are women worried about being “too much”?
(00:13:43) - What are guys actually trying to communicate to women who feel they’re “too much”?
(00:17:01) - On relational conflict, solving it, and how social media doesn’t do you any favours
(00:22:10) - On social media, intimacy, independence, and “settling down”
(00:33:10) - Case’s take on declining marriage rates
(00:39:01) - Case’s great definition of mindfulness, and mindfulness in the context of relationships
(00:49:58) - How can men use mindfulness to improve their relationships?
(00:56:50) - Case’s hard-hitting questions to journal on
(01:05:33) - Will AI impact the mindfulness space?

Case Kenny is a Chicago, IL based mindfulness author and podcast host of the top 25 US podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?" No gurus, no fluff, and no preaching of generic life advice. Just his thoughts on self-help, wellness, and mindsets with practical and personal insights on how to live a passionate, purposeful, and happy life.

Connect with Case
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaseKenny
-Book: That's Bold Of You: https://bit.ly/42hZeDk
-Podcast: New Mindset, Who Dis?: https://bit.ly/3Ue7GkT

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Case Kenny - On Being "Too Much", And Navigating Modern Relationships

Talking points: relationship, mindset, psychology

This is a big one, dear listener. This is a slightly new format for the series; specific topics I'll do a deeper dive on, centering on how you as a man can better understand them, better work through them, and better help others through as well. First up? Codependency. If you've got a specific topic you'd like me to cover, hit me up on Instagram @mantalks!

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:04:11) - What is codependency?
(00:08:30) - One the hallmark indicators you’re in a codependent relationship
(00:10:43) - Major causes of codependency: the peacekeeper, abuse, emotional unavailability, and the caretaker
(00:30:24) - The tale of Johnny Niceguy
(00:35:54) - The signs of a codependent relationship 
(00:38:59) - Seven questions to ask yourself
(00:40:47) - Ways to actually move OUT of codependency, plus one that guys generally don’t like
(00:49:48) - Perfection is a fuel for codependency

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A Man's Guide To Ending Codependency

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, environment, fitness

Is there a testosterone crisis? From the headlines I've read it sure seems like it. But what's going on, where is it coming from, and what can you do naturally to stay healthy? I sat down with Lucas Aoun to cover all of these things and more. Dig into this episode for a brilliant intro to optimizing hormone levels—particularly testosterone—and knowledge on how to avoid hormone disruptors.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:10) - What’s happening to men’s hormone levels, the symptoms, and what testosterone is responsible for
(00:09:41) - On cortisol, testosterone, and key building blocks
(00:16:26) - Outside of stress, what are some things negatively impacting test levels?
(00:22:07) - What about cardio or fasting?
(00:31:33) - Naturally optimizing testosterone with diet and sleep
(00:40:47) - Lucas’ take on TRT and the consequences
(00:45:06) - On tongkat ali, fadogia, shilajit, and other supplements
(00:56:44) - Lucas’ thoughts on creatine

Connect with Lucas
-Website: https://www.boostyourbiology.com/
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoostYourBiology
-The Limitless Course: https://thelimitlesscourse.com/
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Lucas Aoun - How To Naturally Optimize Testosterone

Talking points: collaboration, friendship, masculinity

Men, few things are more powerful, fulfilling, and expansive than this, so guard it with your life. It took me way too long to learn and understand, and many people diminish or degrade its importance. Listen in.
(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:53) - Men are isolated and less collaborative than ever before, and we miss out on important things
(00:05:06) - Without male collaboration, our society would cease to exist
(00:06:40) - What I’ve learned over the last decade about male friendships—and male isolation
(00:10:02) - Maybe you yourself are one of those men who could use more friendships
(00:11:34) - We’ve got to protect this
(00:13:16) - Things you can do to foster male collaboration

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
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The One Thing Every Man Should Fight For His Life To Build

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexuality
The field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.
Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.
(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships
(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection
(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits 
(00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space
(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity? 
(00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same?
(00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression
(00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability
(00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating
(00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means
(01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?
David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators&#39; Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.
Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children&#39;s mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).
Connect with David
-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&amp;user=bVcpj60AAAAJ
-Quillette: https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/
-Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-female
Pick up my book, Men&#39;s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
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David C. Geary - The Evolution Of Sex Differences In The Brain & Vulnerability

Talking points: mindset, relationships
The biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.
(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made
(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence
(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that
(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason
(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in
(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling safer
Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
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Life After De-Sexualizing My Brain (And What To Do)

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, loneliness

Every January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.
If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!

(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom
(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn
(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why
(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with
(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?
(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data
(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity
(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular
(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret
(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one
(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships 
(00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety
(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety
(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?
(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxiety

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
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ManTalks Best Of 2023

Talking points: relationships, culture

Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and stats(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data


Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Women Are Out Earning Men—And The Media Isn't Talking About It

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men&#39;s health

Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We&#39;re kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info.

This is a solid ep to check out if you&#39;re wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone (00:28:35) - On sperm and why you should store some while you’re younger(00:33:37) - On glyphosate and atrazine(00:39:58) - What some things men can do to support healthy testosterone and sperm production? (00:46:12) - What should the T levels and sperm count actually be for a middle-aged man?(00:52:45) - Layne’s take on drugs like Ozempic

Layne Kilpatrick began compounding hormone preparations as a pharmacy intern at the Apothecary Shoppe in downtown Salt Lake City in 1986 when the process of micronization was first developed, paving the way for more widespread hormone supplementation.  He has developed several original formulations made exclusively at MOC. He has treated thousands of patients for hormone-related issues.  He acts as a consultant to medical practitioners and other pharmacists both in and outside of Utah, advising on the interpretation of hormone labs, clinical signs, and symptoms, and effective prescribing practices for ‘native’ hormone therapy, as he prefers to call it. Layne is a native Utahn of pioneer heritage and has lived in Draper since 2003.  He and his wife, Angie, have 5 children.

Connect with Layne:

-Website: https://hormonespecialist.net/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hormonespecialist

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hormonespecialist


Pick up my book, Men&#39;s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don&#39;t forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podc

Layne Kilpatrick - Why Testosterone And Fertility Rates Are Plummeting (And What To Do)

At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year!

(00:00:00) - Intro(00:00:40) - Stop lying(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control


Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

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