Your kids aren't listening. What if your parenting approach—not their behavior—is what needs to change?What happens when a military spouse raising four children, including triplets, realizes that yelling, punishment, and control aren't working?On this episode of VET S.O.S. Presents: The Scoop, host Kingsley Scott sits down with Sue Donnellan, parenting strategist, entrepreneur, military spouse, and author of Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F*ck, for an eye-opening conversation about parenting, accountability, and building relationships that survive beyond childhood.Sue shares how her husband's observation about her constant yelling forced her to confront her own behavior. After supporting five military deployments, running a business, and raising four children, she discovered that the answer wasn't demanding more obedience. It was changing how she led her family.In this episode, you'll discover:• Stop the yelling cycle: Recognize when your frustration is causing your children to shut down, and learn how Montessori principles helped Sue transform her approach to parenting.• Replace control with influence: Understand why demanding obedience can undermine trust and how Sue's "freedom within boundaries" framework develops responsible, independent children.• Apply the Magic Mantra: Learn why Sue tells parents of teenagers, "I'm only in charge of me. I'm not in charge of you," and how stepping back allows children to experience consequences and develop life skills.• Build relationships that encourage honesty: Discover Sue's "shockproof" parenting strategy, why your first reaction to difficult news matters, and how to become the parent your children trust enough to tell everything.• BONUS — The Parenting Rucksack: Kingsley shares five leadership lessons from his own parenting journey: check your ego, pause before responding, investigate the underlying issue, connect, and teach.About Sue DonnellanSue Donnellan is a military spouse, mother of four, entrepreneur, parenting strategist, and author of Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F*ck. Married to an A-10 fighter pilot who continues serving in the National Guard, Sue supported her husband through five deployments while managing her business and raising their children.After recognizing that traditional discipline wasn't producing the results she wanted, Sue spent approximately six years studying child behavioral psychology and incorporating Montessori principles. Through Ask Mom Parenting, she now helps parents develop confident, capable children through independence, accountability, and meaningful connection.If this conversation challenged how you think about parenting, follow VET S.O.S. Presents: The Scoop on Spotify and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts.Open Apple Podcasts, search VET S.O.S. Presents: The Scoop with Kingsley Scott, scroll to Ratings & Reviews, and select "

Parenting Without Control: Build Trust With Your Teen — Sue Donnellan

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