tl;dr JoEllen Notte is here to help us explore depression, relationships, and how depression and mental health can impact sex and desire, plus connecting during a pandemic.   Explore More Summit is happening NOW! Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com and register. We&#39;ve got Pleasure Mechanics, Rachel Cole, Prentis Hemphill, Andrea Glik, Jennifer Mullan, Kai Cheng Thom, and so many others. Don&#39;t miss it!   Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a bonus chat between JoEllen and I on this cultural idea that people with depression are essentially asexual, desexualized humans and what JoEllen actually found in all of her research plus looking at sex as an a la carte menu versus a buffet. (And Eeyore masturbating totally gets talked about.) Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.   In this episode, JoEllen and I talk about her new book, &quot;The Monster Under the Bed&quot; which is all about sex, depression, and relationships.   We talk about how the entire world is coping and struggling with depression, anxiety, panic, and trying to survive the unknown. How normal it is to be feeling numb and disconnected while also feeling more emotional and tender.   We explore how being in close quarters with a partner can lead to a reckoning with our relationships, important questions to ask ourselves during these times when we&#39;re wondering if our relationship is the problem or just how terrible things are in general and how to tease out whether it&#39;s the person or the relationship.   JoEllen and I share some of the catastrophizing stories our brains like to tell us and ways we cope, plus communicating our mental health needs with a partner and why context matters SO much when it comes to our libido and pleasure.   JoEllen also cannot stress enough how important it is to read Emily Nagoski&#39;s &quot;Come As You Are&quot; if you haven&#39;t already.   Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About JoEllen Notte:   JoEllen Notte is a certified sex educator, writer, speaker, sexuality researcher, and mental health advocate. She blogs at The Redhead Bedhead and has been published by the BBC, Glamour, Bitch Media, xoJane, and Kinkly. JoEllen&#39;s book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren&#39;t Having will be released on March 27, 2020.   Stay in touch with JoEllen at redheadbedhead.com and get a copy of The Monster Under the Bed at your favorite local bookstore.   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real     Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don&#39;t forget about I Heart Radio&#39;s Spreaker  Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex

301: Sex and depression with JoEllen Notte

tl;dr Jaclyn Friedman on believing women, what happens when we disclose our trauma, and why our PERCEPTION of who is a victim impacts how we view all victims. We&#39;re talking about her new book with Jessica Valenti, &quot;Believe Me&quot;.  Explore More Summit is happening NEXT WEEK. Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com now!   Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a bonus chat between Jaclyn Friedman and I on Tina Horn&#39;s fantastic essay speaking to why pleasure should not be the measure for sex work and porn performers. It&#39;s SOOOO good and super important for folks who truly want to support those in the field. Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.   I love every time I get to be in conversation with Jaclyn, and this was no different.   We explore the difference between what it means to believe women versus what it means to believe ALL women, and why that distinction is important.   We dive into what it means that women, femmes, and feminized folks often have a different set of memories than cis men. The ways survivors are retraumatized by courts, lawyers, and our &quot;justice&quot; system.   So much of &quot;Believe Me&quot; demonstrates the ways we would all move closer to liberation if we centered Black women and trans women, and we explore all the ways so many of us are only trusted if we disclose the gory details of our trauma but in doing so we are also seen as discredited and no longer experts in anything except our trauma.   Jaclyn shares what social researchers have long demonstrated: that collectively we not only hold women to much higher standards, but as a woman&#39;s credibility goes up, we like her less for it and actively punish her for that growing credibility.   So what can we do about it? Where do we go?   It&#39;s such an important discussion about a very important book, and I hope you&#39;ll get yourself a copy.   Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Jaclyn Friedman:   Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex &amp; Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and her latest, Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire.   As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her

300: Jaclyn Friedman on believing women

tl;dr Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, relational work, and why modern mental health models are inherently anti-erotic.   Explore More Summit registration is OPEN. Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com now!   Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a private conversation Leonore and I had prior to recording for the podcast. We didn&#39;t intend for this to be heard, but it was so good I had to share! Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.   In my chat with Leonore, we explore what a highly sensitive person is and why Leonore has been holding workshops on sex for HSPs. We also talk about the difference between highly sensitive and high sensation seeking.   Leonore shares about how resentment builds with tolerating and performing emotional labor as a highly sensitive person. Plus, the impact to our libido and desire when we don&#39;t feel welcome as who we really are (because of a fear and experience of being too much).   Leonore talks about the erotic suffering we are living in and how modern medicine pathologizes valid experiences.   We explore what partners of HSPs need to know about supporting highly sensitive people, and what it means for Leonore to be shifting her professional work to a more relational capacity. What if we all had more places where people genuinely wanted to hear about our experiences, even if it was uncomfortable?   We discuss how worthiness ties to healthier and more connected relationships, boundaries and how we take responsibility for things that aren&#39;t ours which leads to codependence and pain. Plus, why knowing what is not yours takes a lot of practice and work on our worthiness and self-love.   Leonore names why eros can&#39;t move through us when we are in fight/flight/freeze/fawn, not to the extent that it&#39;s possible, so the process of finding our inner authority and transforming shame into courage creates a good container for eros to visit.   We both talk about why our work is dedicated to deeply shifting our ways of relating with ourselves, each other, and the world - because we need to change things, and it starts with our most intimate relationships.   Finally, we geek out on the harm and damage mainstream mental health causes when it operates from within the dominant paradigm. We discuss: the normativity of modern mental health models, how little sexuality training therapists receive, and its goal is to bring us into alignment with oppressive systems. Leonore sees much of modern mental health as inherently anti-erotic.   Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Leonore Tjia:   Leonore is a feminist sexuality educator who helps people create more presence, play, pleasure and p

299: Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, why mental health models are anti-erotic.

tl;dr We are talking vaginal discharge, FGM or genital cutting scars, cheating when a partner has Alzheimers, and how to teach your kids the importance of pleasure with food.    Power in Pleasure, my 5-week online course all about pleasure is now enrolling. The next cohort starts March 22nd, so do not miss it! Especially now with the news cycle and the fear. Spending some dedicated time for 5 weeks, plus 6 intimate group calls, to explore pleasure and safety is sooo important. Check out the details and enroll now.    First up - BE SURE TO SIGN-UP FOR THE BODY TRUST SUMMIT!!! There are still 3 days left which means NINE free talks to see, and there is a 90-minute Parenting with Body Trust panel on Tuesday, March 17th that is a MUST for parents and caregivers of small children. Register, for free, now because it&#39;s entirely online and ends March 17th.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week&#39;s bonus will be at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Enjoy!   Also, I love your emails. Send your questions my way! You can use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   On to the episode!   I Sense You Are Stronger Than Me wrote in asking about vaginal discharge. Occasionally, especially after sex, ISYASTM will have thick, white discharge and they are embarrassed to go to the doctor to get it checked. Is it normal? What is it?   I share a few articles with you about the ways our discharge can change over the month and the impact that condom-less intercourse with a penis can have on vaginal pH and discharge. Links to all the articles mentioned in this episode are at dawnserra.com/ep298.   Next up, North is struggling because they have a lovely partner they&#39;ve been with a year. Everything is fantastic. The problem? North&#39;s partner experienced genital cutting (many people know it as FGM or FGC) and the scars on their partner&#39;s genitals trigger a disgust response. North isn&#39;t disgusted by their partner, but by the evidence of the violence that was done to them. How can they move past it all?   Donald Alone wrote in concerned that he is cheating. He is in his 80s, and his wife has Alzheimers and is in a memory care facility. Donald recently met a woman who, while married has been left by her husband, and the two of them are hitting it off. They&#39;ve kissed and they are wondering if what they&#39;ve done is considered cheating.   Finally, Eating Momma loves the idea of eating for pleasure and wants to help teach her 9-year-old daughter the importance of pleasure around food. How does she do that? A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and closing of the episode and to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might le

298: Discharge, FGM scars, cheating during Alzheimers, & teaching kids pleasure with food

tl;dr Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food &amp; sex is so important. Part 2 of 2!     I am so excited to share Part 2 of this 2 part conversation with the incredible Christy Harrison! If you haven&#39;t heard Part 1, hop over and give that a listen before diving into this episode.     Christy is an anti-diet dietitian, host of the Food Psych Podcast, and she just published a book that we are exploring here called, &quot;Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating&quot;.     Before we get into my chat with Christy, I wanted to share a post on Tumblr by Inkdot about clothing that I wish more of us knew. The dressing room can be a fraught place for many of us - clothes never seem to fit just right, or the arbitrary sizes bring up shame. Head to dawnserra.com/ep297 for a link to this piece about celebrities and clothes might bring some relief to those of us who struggle with finding clothing that fits our bodies.     Be Nourished&#39;s free online Body Trust Summit is March 11-17 and it is going to be fantastic. If you like my conversation with Christy this week, the summit is 24 talks that will take you even deeper into your relationship with food, body, pleasure, and healing.  Register now!     Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week are going to explore our body stories and I&#39;m going to share a few more awesome bits from Christy&#39;s book for us all to be in together. Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.     So back to my chat with Christy:     This week on Part 2 of my conversation with Christy Harrison we continue our exploration of many of the lies we&#39;ve been sold, desirability politics and changing bodies, and why the problem is NOT weight but rather weight stigma and a focus on dieting.     All of this ties so so intimately to the ways we experience sex, the ways we navigate consent, how we set boundaries, and do relationship.     Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Christy Harrison:  Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, CDN is an anti-diet registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and author of the book  Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating(Little, Brown Spark 2019). She offers online courses and private  intuitive eating coaching to help people all over the world make peace with food and their bodies. Since 2013 Christy has hosted  Food Psych, a weekly podcast exploring people’s relationships with food and paths to body liberation. It is now one of iTunes’ top 100 health podcasts, reaching tens of thousands of listeners worldwide each week.     Christy began her career in 2003 as a journalist covering food, nutrition,

297: Christy Harrison on eating for pleasure, desirability, and being anti-diet, Part 2

tl;dr Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food &amp; sex is so important.   I am so excited to share Part 1 of this 2 part conversation with the incredible Christy Harrison!   Christy is an anti-diet dietitian, host of the Food Psych Podcast, and she just published a book that we are exploring here called, &quot;Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating&quot;.   Before we get into my chat with Christy, I have a few important things:   First, at Alex&#39;s suggestion, I turned my answer from last week&#39;s episode about preferences for certain bodies into a blog post... that has as of six days later been read over 31,000 times. HOLY SHIT! There has been so much beautiful input, additional nuance, and depth in all of the things people are saying, and I am so grateful. If you like it, feel free to share it! Let&#39;s keep the conversation going.   Second, Be Nourished&#39;s free online Body Trust Summit is March 11-17 and it is going to be fantastic. If you like my conversation with Christy this week, the summit is 24 talks that will take you even deeper into your relationship with food, body, pleasure, and healing. Register now!   Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, don&#39;t miss my bonus chat with Christy at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Christy and I talk about my own disordered eating and orthorexia, the part of her book that made me burst into tears, the cost of the performances we do around food and also sex, and where the advent of the “obesity” epidemic came from and why it’s actually really new. Hint: it has to do with money in people’s pockets NOT science.   So back to my chat with Christy:   I expect a lot of you are going to have some big feels come up as you hear Christy and I talk about diet culture, weight stigma, and how dieting and disordered relationships with our hungers impacts our sexual desire and pleasure.   This is a really nuanced conversation, so if you notice yourself constricting or feeling defensive, feel free to take a break, breathe, move, and then return to it later. Seven or eight years ago me would have felt really resistant to a conversation like this, so I get it.   Part 2, which drops next week, continues our exploration of many of the lies we&#39;ve been sold, desirability politics and changing bodies, and why the problem is NOT weight but rather weight stigma and a focus on dieting.   All of this ties so so intimately to the ways we experience sex, the ways we navigate consent, how we set boundaries, and do relationship, so I hope you&#39;ll join me for this delicious 2-part conversation with Christy.   Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Christy Harrison:   Christy Harrison, MPH,

296: Christy Harrison on pleasure, happiness, and being anti-diet, Part 1

tl;dr Are sexual preferences changeable? What if someone really just doesn&#39;t like short men or fat women? And what should a lesbian do if she wants sex with men?   First up - BE SURE TO SIGN-UP FOR THE BODY TRUST SUMMIT!!! It&#39;s going to be incredible and challenging and so so so powerful. I&#39;m not only a speaker but I&#39;m also working behind the scenes with Alex to produce it for Be Nourished. Seven days of talks on healing our relationship with food and body? Yes please. Register, for free, now because it&#39;s entirely online and kicks off March 11th.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week&#39;s bonus is an erotica reading. It&#39;s a hot Daddy/girl story that takes place in the woods with flogging and whips and all sorts of yumminess. Hear it over at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Enjoy!   Also, I love your emails. Send your questions my way! You can use the contact form at dawnserra.com. Oh, and be sure to join the next Power in Pleasure course. It&#39;s enrolling now and starts March 22nd.   On to the episode!   First up, I share some beautiful words by someone named jedidiahjenkins. I shared the post on the Sex Gets Real Facebook page. It&#39;s all about friendship and love.   Next, I&#39;m running an experiment. Do you love mail as much as I do? Want me to write you a letter? Well, I want to write to you! If that&#39;s you, fill out the form (link is at dawnserra.com/ep295) and we&#39;ll see what happens. The form, at least for now, will be open until early March. I have no idea how many of you will want this!   And then it&#39;s on to your emails.   Paul wrote in asking about preferences. Can&#39;t people just not like skinny guys or short guys or fat women? After all, he suggests our preferences are personal, so can&#39;t people just not like or like certain bodies?   Strap in because we are doing a really deep and wide exploration of all the factors that impact our &quot;personal&quot; preferences.   As part of that exploration, I share some pieces from Imran Siddiquee&#39;s TEDx talk. Head to dawnserra.com/ep295 because I highly recommend checking out Imran&#39;s talk and his writing and essays in general.   But this question begs of us - how can we all do better? Because it&#39;s those with the most privilege that are most resistant to examining their preferences and stories, so I invite us into different ways of relating with each other.   I can&#39;t wait for you to hear it.   Then, Curious Little Rabbit wants to know what she should do. She&#39;s a lesbian who hasn&#39;t had sex with men in 15 years, but lately she&#39;s been having lots of fantasies about it. Should she find a guy and give it a try? If so, where can she find some options in Houston, Texas?   Be sure to tune in next week for Part 1 of 2 with my interview with Christy Harrison from the Food Psych podcast. We talk pleasure, desire, bodies, and her new book, &quot;Anti-Diet&quot;.   A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and clos

295: Can we change our sexual preferences? Plus, a lesbian who wants to try sex with men.

tl;dr Inka Winter from ForPlay Films joins us to talk about making porn and why sexual healing and sex education is an important part of her work.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, don't miss my bonus chat with Inka at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Inka shares about her experience growing up in a cult in Austria where sex was mandatory and why that informs so much of her work at ForPlay Films.   In this episode, Inka and I talk about the very real challenges of what it's like to create erotic film. We talk about how Inka got started, how generous her friends in Hollywood have been at volunteering as cinematographers and support staff, and even why most of her films to date have featured friends instead of professional porn performers.   We also explore the homophobia among men in the adult industry in Los Angeles and why she's struggled to feature more diverse bodies and stories in her films.   I can't wait for you to hear this honest and approachable chat with someone who is creating erotic material with a focus on love, consent, and education.   Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Inka Winter:   Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and the founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman production company that puts female pleasure front and center. Inspired by the power of sexual expression, her films celebrate all shades of female desire. Winter believes that sex education and emotional wellbeing are a big part of a healthy sex life. She also produces  Sexucation, a short video series using humor to educate women and men all things sex and is training to become a sex and relationship counselor. An LA-based costume designer and lifelong artist, Winter spent her formative childhood years living in an artist commune in Austria, which set the foundation and aesthetic for her creative endeavors in film-making.   Website: https://forplayfilms.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forplayfilms/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/ForPlayFilms   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real     Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker  Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio.    Hearing from you is the best   Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)   Episode Transcript  Head to dawnserra.com/ep294 for the transcript.

294: Making erotic films with Inka Winter

tl;dr Can you change who you&#39;re sexually attracted to? Is someone gay for getting blowjobs from a guy? Is it OK to cheat with a sex worker?     Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week&#39;s bonus is several Am I The Asshole posts over at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. I want to know who you think is an asshole and who isn&#39;t, so come join me for some laughs and share your thoughts about these predicaments.   Also, I love your emails. Send your questions my way! You can use the contact form at dawnserra.com.     We start by talking about the importance of treating sex workers with respect and we talk a little about a piece in The Guardian about self-care. Head to dawnserra.com/ep293 for the link. I love what it&#39;s offering about the ways self-care has been co-opted and what communal care can look like.     Then it&#39;s on to your questions.     First up, Q just got their masters degree and through grad school put on some weight. Their partner of 6 years told them they aren&#39;t as sexually attracted to them now because of that weight. Can someone change their sexual attraction?     Ohhhhh, do I have thoughts! If you want to hear more about situations like this, be sure to check out my chat with Carmen Cool at Explore More 2019, because we talked about this a lot, too.     Next, Britney is worried her boyfriend is gay. He was getting blowjobs from a gay guy in high school and might have done it again in college. Is he gay and how can she believe him when he&#39;s lied before?     Let&#39;s talk about sexual orientation and how it isn&#39;t always as simple as whether someone is gay or not. Plus, trust seems to be pretty damaged, so I weigh in on how I think they can re-connect.     Finally, Ryan is in a long-term relationship of six years. They have an active and amazing sex life. That said, he has a desire to work with a sex worker to get an erotic massage, but he worries his partner will see that as cheating. Does he deny himself this pleasure just because his partner might not like it?     Relationship agreements are important, folks, and if you can&#39;t abide by them, you shouldn&#39;t be in a relationship.     A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and closing of the episode and to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.  About Dawn Serra:  What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. I

293: Sexual attraction, gay for getting blowjobs, & cheating with a sex worker

tl;dr Bringing more racial nuance to sexual assault conversations, how to do oral sex when you struggle for breath, and how to deal with regret and hurt after a threesome.     Patrons who support at $3 and above, there are TWO bonuses this week at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. One is all about what people got stuck in their vagina, penis, and rectum in 2019. The other is about the science of biological sex by.... a biologist. Tune in and comment with your thoughts.     Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com.     We start with some beautiful words by Heidi Preibe about loving someone over the long term. Grab the text and link at dawnserra.com/ep292.     I also mentioned my quarantine selfie which you can see at dawnserra.com/ep292, too!     On to your emails...     Scotney, a fellow sex educator, wrote in with some additional nuance around Kobe Bryant, sexual assault, and the institutional and cultural racism that we need to acknowledge when we are specifically talking about Black men and sexual violence.     Nick is preparing for a double lung transplant. He is short of breath and can&#39;t lay on his stomach to eat out his wife. How can he engage in oral sex with his wife without struggling to breathe?     I have ideas for Nick, plus permission to expand the ways he pleases his wife. It doesn&#39;t only have to be oral sex! Bodies change, and sometimes the ways we have sex need to change, too.     Gina Senarighi is here to help me answer the final question this week from Jealous friend and lover. JFL is feeling really hurt because her and her boyfriend were kissing and flirting with a friend of hers, but things escalated quickly and now JFL is feeling insecure, betrayed, and unsure of how to move forward.     What do you do when you open your relationship or try a threesome and things go wrong? How can you repair from a relationship oops? Gina is here to help me answer those questions with such generosity and compassion.     A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and closing of the episode and to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.  About Gina Senarighi:  Dr Gina Senarighi, PhD, CPC is an author, teacher, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach based in the midwestern U.S. She’s been supporting clean fights and dirty sex in happy healthy relationships since 2009. Gina has written several books and currently leads couples retreats and coaches online clients all over the world.   Find Gina at heygina.com and nonmonogamous.com. Be sure to also tune into her podcast, Swoon.  Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real    Listen and subscribe on iTunes    Check us out on Stitcher   Don&#39;t forget about I Heart Radio&#39;s Spreaker    Pop over to Google Play   Use the player at the top of this page.    Stream it

292: Sexual assault, oral sex, and regret after a threesome

tl;dr STIs and how to protect ourselves, men who want masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies, plus Kobe Bryant's death.     Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast tomorrow.     To kick off this week's episode, we are exploring some of the complicated feelings around Kobe Bryant's death, especially for survivors. We're also unpacking a new paper released by the CDC about STIs being on the rise. Check out the article at dawnserra.com/ep291     Sinclair Sexsmith recently pulled together a bunch of people, blogs, and helpful tidbits on chronic pain and sex. Grab the link at dawnserra.com/ep291.     Then it's on to your questions.     First up, Jose wants to know if it's healthy to have a sexual relationship with himself when he's in a relationship with someone else. And is it weird to want a masturbation buddy? Especially when he's a straight man and wants to masturbate with other men?     Next, Busy Cat is ready to leave the big city and get a job in a smaller city, but her boyfriend isn't ready to make the move. How can she convince him that this move will be good for them?     Finally, Ashamed is in recovery for an eating disorder and has complicated feelings about her fat body. She doesn't have much experience with masturbation or sex, and she wants to start but she doesn't know how.     What if you can't reach your genitals? What if you don't know where to start? We go all the places and focus in on pleasure - because that's what it's all about, right?     A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and closing of the episode and to Hemlock for their awesome song "Firelight" which was used in this episode between questions.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.  About Dawn Serra:  What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.  Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real    Listen and subscribe on iTunes    Check us out on Stitcher   Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker    Pop over to Google Play   Use the player at the top of this page.    Stream it on Spotify   Find  the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio.   Hearing from you is the best  Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)  Episode Transcript  Check it out at dawnserra.com/ep291

291: STIs, masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies

tl;dr How to have with someone in a wheelchair, being scared of sex and not knowing how to jump in.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there&#39;s a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. We are diving into the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - the behaviors that indicate a relationship is in need of repair and heading for trouble and what we can do about it.   This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements.   An important article on abortion plus I also am sharing two interesting posts about men and testosterone and men and sexual desire by psychotherapist Eric FitzMedrud. There&#39;s some really interesting stuff here that helps to share our conversation masculinity and consent. I&#39;d love to hear what you think! Grab the links at dawnserra.com/ep290 for everything mentioned.   On to your questions!   Cassandra is about to have sex for the first time with someone new and he is in a wheelchair. She&#39;s not sure how to ask what he likes or how to sext, espcially since he told her that he can&#39;t get erections. What should she do?   Let&#39;s talk about sex with someone in a wheelchair! First, for folks who are super new to sex and disability, Amaze.org has this awesome video to get you started.   I also highly recommend this soon-to-be-published book by Limerence Press, an imprint of Oni Press, called &quot;A Quick and Easy Guide to Sex and Disability&quot; by A. Andrews. It&#39;s a graphic novel all about - you guessed it - sex and disability and I love it. It comes out in May 2020, so follow Limerence on Twitter to hear when it&#39;s out! You can also pre-order it on Amazon.   I offer loads of questions Cassandra can ask her new beau, and I also suggest a Yes No Maybe list. Head to dawnserra.com/ep290 for a great resource on those.   Next, Scaredy Cat and Queer &amp; Missing Sex are BOTH scared about sex.   Scaredy Cat is in eating disorder recovery and found me through Christy Harrison&#39;s amazing show, Food Psych. SC hasn&#39;t had a boyfriend and is terrified of sex to the point that she is cutting off potential partners out of fear that they&#39;ll expect or want sex. What can she do?   In addition to all the things I mention on the show, I also pulled together a reading list for SC as a way to start learning, practicing, and finding more language around sex, boundaries, needs, and desires.    Some books to get you going can be found at dawnserra.com/ep290    There&#39;s a much bigger recommended reading list you can grab at dawnserra.com/books, too!   Next up, Queer &amp; Missing Sex is a few years out of an abusive relationship and feeling scared about sex, too. What can they do to reconnect with someone and have the fun sex they miss?   Also, huge thanks to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions. I&#39;m digging it!   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra:

290: Wheelchair sex and being scared of sex

tl;dr When the sex stops after you move in together, non-binary pregnancy, and why sex with fat folks is not revolutionary.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there&#39;s a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Let&#39;s explore some of what we want to let go of and what we&#39;d like to bring in for 2020, plus the most magical gift list I&#39;ve ever read.   This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements.   First, you must read this magical thread by @shaanlashun on having sex with fat people. Share it widely. Sing it from the rooftops. The articles they mentioned are linked at dawnserra.com/ep289   I also am sharing two tweets from @pangmeli and you can find them here and here.   On to your questions!   First up, Lee recently moved in with her partner and the sex has stopped. What gives? Why did the sex stop as soon as they moved in together? The sex was kind of boring before that, so Lee is wondering how to talk to her partner about having sex, how not to build this up into A Thing, and if they can stack complaints of the things that aren&#39;t working?   Let&#39;s talk about building a solid foundation of positive experiences and trust. We need to all be practicing our sex talk with partners when things are good because it&#39;s so upsetting to be in a relationship where the only time you talk about sex is when something is wrong.   I know lots of people are in this situation, so I&#39;ve got lots of questions and recommendations for Lee, including reading Esther Perel&#39;s Mating in Captivity.   Next, Ama wrote in because she was raped twice by her best friend. It&#39;s been a year, but she can&#39;t stop crying and feeling unlovable. She&#39;s been trying to date, but she keeps choosing men who are unavailable.   Finally, H is a non-binary person trying to get pregnant, but they are feeling all sorts of homophobia come up around their masculine body in this quest to have a baby.   I found some awesome resources for non-binary and trans folks who are trying to get pregnant and who are pregnant. Check out the huge list of resources at dawnserra.com/ep289   Also, huge thanks to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions. I&#39;m digging it!   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cat

289: When the sex stops after you move in together & non-binary pregnancy

tl;dr Abuse in polyamory. Can squirting cause incontinence? Are there men who don&#39;t like sex? How to have sex with someone with large breasts?     Patrons who support at $3 and above, there&#39;s a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. It&#39;s a listener question about first time sex, birth control, and deep throating. Tune in to hear it and thanks for supporting the show financially.     This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements.     First, I am in two new books. You can find an essay I wrote almost 2 years ago in the recently released &quot;Sex Positive Now&quot; anthology and I have been turned into a comic character for Meg-John Barker&#39;s soon to be released  &quot;Gender: A Graphic Guide&quot;. Pre-order yours today!     This week, I am also bringing our attention to two articles about abuse in polyamory that I think offer important questions for us all to hold. Head to dawnserra.com/ep288 for the links.     We need to hold ourselves and each other accountable for the ways we are doing relationship, and unfortunately much of the mainstream polyamory/non-monogamy advice just doesn&#39;t hold the nuance that&#39;s needed for people who have trauma, who experience mental illness, and a whole host of other realities.     On to your questions!     First up, Cathryn wrote in with some really sweet messages about discovering the podcast.     Next, Sofia wrote in about squirting and incontinence. Can squirting lead to incontinence? I got input from several pelvic floor therapists, and though the answer is more complicated, the overall sense is yes, it can. We explore why in the episode.     Then, Jose asks, “Am I the only guy who doesn&#39;t like sex?&quot; But the thing is, Jose has a thriving sex life - with himself. It&#39;s partnered sex he doesn&#39;t care for, so we explore asexuality, masculinity myths, and why it&#39;s perfectly normal and OK to prefer sex with yourself.     Finally, Breast Distress has a new partner who has large breasts. How can she become a better at sex with someone who has large breasts, especially when it&#39;s something she&#39;s never done before?     Also, huge thanks to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions. I&#39;m digging it!   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.  About Dawn Serra:  What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventur

288: Squirting and incontinence, men who don't like sex, & large breasts

tl;dr Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward     MENOPAUSE! It's a thing loads of us go through that's fraught with misinformation, silence, shame, and PATRIARCHY.     So, this week, I'm chatting with author Darcey Steinke about her new book, "Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life". I had a chance to read the book and chat about it with some friends in a queer elders book club I'm in.     Darcey and I dive into the ways menopause is vilified by the modern medical industrial complex, the stories we don't have, and what she discovered along the way around pleasure, sex, and changing bodies.     We acknowledge that this episode is cis and hetero centric as it's a largely about Darcey's memoir. If you're looking for some resources for other kinds of bodies and genders, head to dawnserra.com/ep287 for a few to check out.     You can grab  "Flash Count Diary" wherever books are sold.   Patreons, don't miss my bonus chat with Darcey just for you! You'll hear a moving story of how and why Darcey found inspiration in killer whales as she moved through menopause and what we can learn about changing bodies from these fierce mammals. It was one of my favorite parts of the book, too! The bonus is for folks who support at $3 per month and above, and you can hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.     Have questions of your own you'd like featured on the show? Send me a note using the contact form in the navigation above!   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.  About Darcey Steinke:  Darcey Steinke is the author of the memoir Easter Everywhere and five novels: Sister Golden Hair, Milk, Jesus Saves, Suicide Blonde, and Up Through the Water. Her books have been translated into ten languages, and her nonfiction has appeared widely. Her web story “Blindspot” was a part of the 2000 Whitney Biennial. She has been both a Henry Hoyns and a Stegner Fellow, and a Writer-in-Residence at the University of Mississippi. She has taught at the New School, Columbia University School of the Arts, New York University, Princeton, and the American University of Paris. She lives with her husband in Brooklyn.     Stay in touch with Darcey at darceysteinke.com and on Instagram.  Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real    Listen and subscribe on iTunes    Check us out on Stitcher   Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker    Pop over to Google Play   Use the player at the top of this page.    Tune in on Spotify.   Find  the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio.   Hearing from you is the best  Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)  Episode Transcript  Head to dawnserra.com/ep287 for the full transcript.

287: Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward

tl;dr Can someone explore their bisexuality while being in a monogamous relationship? Do things get better after you&#39;ve been raped? How can you balance body positivity with Hashimoto&#39;s and how can you tell a potential date about your health issues?   Patrons who support at $3 and above, you&#39;re invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell&#39;s &quot;How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy&quot;, so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Also, your bonus this week is some fun journal prompts and questions about food and pleasure. Be sure to grab it!   On with this week&#39;s episode.   TJ has been diagnosed with Hashimoto&#39;s which is an auto immune disorder. After a lifetime of trying to be accepting of their body, now their body is changing. How can they balance a restricted diet without giving into diet culture?   And, if you&#39;re just starting to date again, how do you tell someone about your health issues? When is the right time to tell them about a disease or a disorder?   MJ is exploring her bisexuality, but there&#39;s a problem. She&#39;s in a monogamous relationship. Her partner is open to them trying a threesome, but MJ wants to try sex with a woman on her own just to see what&#39;s it like. Can she do that?   This also opens the door for us to talk about the ways we treat people when we want to experiment with our sexuality or try a threesome - often we treat folks like objects to use for our pleasure. How can we do better? What kind of complexity do we need to grapple with if we&#39;re seriously considering trying something like this?   Finally, N wrote in. She was raped and then betrayed by someone she cared deeply about. After a suicide attempt, N is in counselling and struggling. Does life get better? Do the nightmares and the fear and the PTSD get better? Is there hope for intimacy and being able to be touched?   Let&#39;s talk about the realities of living in a body after trauma and what healing can look like inside of these very broken systems we&#39;re in.   Also, huge thanks to Hemlock for their awesome song &quot;Firelight&quot; which was used in this episode between questions. I&#39;m digging it!   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra:     What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterC

286: Exploring bisexuality, life after rape, Hashimoto's & dating

tl;dr Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure   This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners, save 30% off your first month's subscription of period products (tampons, pads, and liners) and sex products (ultra thin condoms, lube, and wipes).   This week it's me and Kai Cheng Thom. I AM SO EXCITED!   Kai Cheng and I talk about so many things from how easy it is for sex positive educators to default to a mechanized view of sex and why checklists around consent aren't enough to why sex is always political and why Kai Cheng is so committed to uplifting our humanity.   We dive into healing, trauma, transformative justice, courage, pleasure, and Kai Cheng's vision for a post-apocalyptic world.   Be sure to check out Kai Cheng's advise column for some great reading, and of course, grab  Kai Cheng's new book, "I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl's Notes From the End of the World" out by AK Press.   Then, for Patreon, our bonus conversation is all about somatic sex education, the importance of having a place to practice and experience sex, and where you can learn more about somatic sex education. If you want to hear our chat, it's for folks who support at $3 per month and above, and you can hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.   Have questions of your own you'd like featured on the show? Send me a note using the contact form in the navigation above!     Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Kai Cheng Thom: Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and community worker based in Toronto. She is the award-winning author four books, all in different genres. Kai Cheng's work on mental health, relationships, and transformative justice has appeared in many publications internationally.   Stay in touch with Kai Cheng at kaichengthom.com and on Twitter @razorfemme.   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real     Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker  Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Tune in on Spotify. Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio.    Hearing from you is the best   Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)   Episode Transcript   Head to dawnserra.com/ep285 for the transcript.

285: Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure

tl;dr How to vulnerable and honest, is cheating bad, and what to do about a big penis?   News!    Patrons who support at $3 and above, you&#39;re invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell&#39;s &quot;How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy&quot;, so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.    Let&#39;s take a touch inventory. Who in your life can you share touch with? Not just sexual or romantic, but platonic, comforting, or familial touch? I&#39;ve been thinking a lot about the ways we&#39;re so touch-starved here in the U.S. and Canada, and then an article came across my feed this week that I thought was worth sharing. Check out Vice&#39;s article by visiting dawnserra.com/ep284.   This week it&#39;s your emails! We&#39;re diving deep into three of them.   Anxious Freshman grew up in a household where love was dependent on obedience and pleasing their father. As someone heading off to college, they&#39;re noticing that it&#39;s challenging for them to be open and honest about their feelings, to be vulnerable with others. They even lie to their friends about sex while knowing their friends wouldn&#39;t judge them. What can they do differently?   Al has a big question. Is it wrong to cheat on his wife? They&#39;ve been married a long time and sex hasn&#39;t been a part of the equation for many years. He is seriously considering cheating on his wife, and wants to know if it&#39;s wrong.   It&#39;s a huge question and one I take some time with.   Finally, Big Cock Blues has met someone wonderful, but there&#39;s a problem. His cock is massive and it leaves BCB feeling raw, sore, and irritated after they have intercourse. What can BCB do to accommodate this big penis?   From different positions to cock rings to trying perineal massage, there are lots of ways to experiment here, but the bottom line is to always trust your body and to follow your body&#39;s lead - not to try and force it or override it&#39;s wisdom. I found an article on perineal massage for BCB. Check it out here.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real     Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don&#39;t forget about I Heart Radio&#39;s Spre

284: Learning to be vulnerable, is cheating bad, and big penises

tl;dr Relationship green flags (healthy relationship behaviors), community accountability, and play party etiquette.   News!    Patrons who support at $3 and above, you're invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell's "How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy", so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.    How are you doing? No really. How are you? Share with me, if you'd like, and send in your questions because I'd love to hear from you. Send me a note using the contact form in the navigation above?   What are relationship green flags? In other words, what are healthy relationship behaviors? What's a green flag for relationships? Well, after seeing a meme circulating with a few of them, I compiled a list of 24 green flag behaviors for relationships, because we hear a lot about red flags and it's nice to know what to do versus what not to do.   Anderbear wrote in wanting to know how to proactively set up an accountability pod for their kinky community and resources for community accountability.   While the list isn't exhaustive, it is a jumping off point! Get all of the links and names at dawnserra.com/ep283.   Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra:   What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real     Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker  Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio.    Hearing from you is the best   Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)   Episode Transcript   Visit dawnserra.com/ep283

283: Healthy relationship behaviors (green flags), community accountability

tl;dr Is squirting embarrassing? How can I find a fat-friendly therapist? What if my marriage is falling apart?   News!    Patrons who support at $3 and above, you&#39;re invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell&#39;s &quot;How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy&quot;, so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast.    This week, it&#39;s me and you!   An awesome video called  &quot;How to Support Harm Does in Accountability&quot; came across my feed this week, and it turns out it&#39;s part of a multi-video series by the Barnard Center for Research on Women featuring Mia Mingus, Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, adrienne maree brown, and a bunch of other amazing folks. Definitely check them all out.   How can we become more committed to collective healing and safety? What do we need to let go of in order to center the most marginalized? I explore this a bit as I share a few quotes and tidbits from the videos.   Then, we dive into your questions.   Sad Gay Millennial and SaFyre both wrote in this week with really sweet notes about how the show has helped them. I&#39;m holding them so tenderly.   Ina wrote to me about being in a fat body and finding support. How can you find a fat-friendly therapist? I have resources for you to check out at dawnserra.com/ep282.   Regardless of who you have near you for support, I recommend asking lots of questions about their values and going in with a list of requests and boundaries that would help you to feel more safe and supported.   Is squirting embarrassing? Amy wrote in because she squirts and after she does, she often feels really embarrassed and worried about the mess she made. Her current boyfriend is really supportive, but she wants to know if there&#39;s a way to feel less awkward about the mess her body makes.   Finally, Emotionally Wrecked Matt wrote in because he lost weight last year and as a result his wife has experienced a lot of insecurity and withdrawal. Sex isn&#39;t what it used to be, feelings are hurt, and now they&#39;ve shared some fantasies with each other that left the other feeling even more hurt. What can he do?   As much as there is to dive into in this email, what&#39;s clear is that Matt and his wife need some support. Repair needs to come before adventure and play, so let&#39;s talk about that.   Have questions of your own you&#39;d like featured on the show? Send me a note using the contact form in the navigation above!     Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram.   About Dawn Serra:   What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who ar

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